1/23/09 - WODU

Last week and earlier this week WODU has been talking about various topics concering relationships and gender. The first was more like an argument or discussion about what girls really want from guys. The second was about sex, and the third about issues in relationships. The first and the third discussions were really interesting to me. When I tuned in to the third discussion, the DJ was saying that he felt that he was not obligated as a man to tell his girlfriend if he was going to the movies with another female friend. So, his female co-host and the female caller said that women would then start to do what they wanted to with no explanation, and he didn't like that idea. I think that this confrontation stemmed from two things: men think that women are naturally insecure; and women think that men are more likely than themselves to be unfaithful in a relationship. It was interesting to me because when you sit down and think about it, we all have the chance to be insecure or unfaithful - so why is it that we believe these stereotypes? Maybe women aren't insecure, they just (unfortunately) derive their security from others, rather than themselves. Thus, if you are in a relationship with a woman, you have to understand that there is a very good chance that more of how she feels about herself comes from how you treat her than you think, so you have to be careful. So, when your attention deviates from her to anyone else, even if your heart is with her, she becomes concerned. In this case, women need to get their empowerment from within - men must be born with it or something (save this topic for another blog). Men, on the other hand, probably are more likely to cheat because they naturally think about sex more often than women and because they can get immediate gratification, thanks to some women (yet another blog). All in all, we are wrapped up in each others mess I guess.